14 May 2007

The only kind of date I stress about is the *girl-date*


L knew right away what I meant when she asked what my post-work plans were this week and I responded, "Monday - run, Tuesday - drinks with the ex, Wednesday - anniversary celebration with a half-gallon of Neapolitan and Serendipity, and Thursday...Thursday, oh right, I have a girl-date."

Men, on the other hand, in part out of ignorance and in part out of the undeniable reality that their default thoughts are synonymous with their most sought after but most likely - and unfortunately - unconsummated fantasy, tend not to assign the words "girl-date" to a let's-talk-about-work-and-men Carrie/Charlotte/Miranda/Samantha-esque happy hour but rather to a of scantily-clad, Champagne-inspired Gina-Gershon-and-Jennifer-Tilly-in-Bound (shown above) scenario.

But obviously (or perhaps, not so obviously given all the Monica fawning and gratuitous rack commentary), "girl-date," in the context in which I was referring to it per my conversation with L, falls into the former, less tawdry category.

For those male readers who aren't quite sure what a girl-date is, at least the kind of girl-date I'll be going on later this week, let me offer you a rough operational definition:

A girl-date is when two women who are relatively unfamiliar with one another (in my case, we met at a party) decide they want to explore a more meaningful friendship outside of their current circumstances (in my case, e-mail correspondence) and do so by setting up a meeting whereby the potential for said meaningful friendship can be more deeply explored.

For me, these dates, the dates when I might discover a new shoulder to cry on, a new acid-tongued wingwoman to have my back when I'm dragged to horrific places like Rumors, or a new number to dial when I find a mis-marked DVF wrapdress in her size buried at the bottom of a clearance bin, are much more consequential and much more anticipatory than the other kinds of dates I'm "enjoying" in my present social schedule.

But the question is...what to wear?

I have four days to decide on that perfect, not-too-sexy, not-too-trendy, not-too-trying-too-hard ensemble that will represent me without looking like I spent as much effort as I did assembling it.

Final decision - and reactions thereto - to be shared with you all on Friday morning.

28 comments:

west coast devotee said...

you are getting scary good at the subtle menage a trois references.

And your ahem, *acceptance* of them...

atl in dc said...

(scratching head)

remind me again how it's possible you're still single?

Johanna said...

WCD -

I have NO idea what you're talking about...

west coast devotee said...

Mmmmhmmm, right, JC.

tom h said...

That is a great question atl in dc.......Jo how in the world are you still single??? Are all the men in DC blind????

Anonymous said...

She's the one who's blind.

Blindly waiting anyway.

bff in chicago said...

Not so, anonymous, she's just too consumed with being a dedicated blogger, analyst and above all, mother to baby Monte.

She's not blind. Just a romantic waiting for her Mr. Big.

etcetera said...

it's pointless for me to even *try* to find an appropriate outfit. look for me in jean cut-off shorts and an oversized T shirt with disney cartoon prints on it. afterwards, you can join the legions of my friends who want to nominate me for What Not To Wear. I'm sorry if this disappoints you, but you should be warned... that party dress was my only decent piece.

Johanna said...

Cut-offs and a Disney shirt would be more than acceptable.

Besides, I hear Spezie gives discounts to anyone whose pockets are longer than the hem of their shorts. What perfect luck!

Recent lurker said...

Haven't you dissed cut-offs before?With your "effing incredible" backside you'd probably rock them. Kind of a half-Asian Dukes of Hazard thing.

Just fantasizing.

Johanna said...

Recent lurker (oooh, like the sound of that...) -

True, I have dissed cut-offs before, but on etcetera it's different. Any girl who lived in Darfur for two years - the *last* two years - can do the cut-offs thing and get away with it. All she has to say in her defense is, "Hey, I lived in Darfur, you didn't, I win."

And she would. Game over.

tom h said...

Amen Jo...game,set,match.......

Noelle said...

Ah, the infamous "girl-date"! So much harder to choose an outfit for a girl date than a guy date. In my opinion, women are much more observant and aware of the meaning in fashion choices. Men are easily appeased by a sexy ensemble, but with women it's more complicated.

I went on a girl date a few months ago and found one of my sweetest, smartest, hottest friends! Have fun =)

Johanna said...

Recent lurker -

how about sending me a private e-mail? I'd love to hear more about the fantasy...these days, I'll take what I can get!

No, I'm not kidding.

etcetera said...

J - thats the excuse i use for ALL my fashion transgressions. trust me, it gets old.

it's also my go-to excuse for being a complete popculture vacuum.

the upshot is that whenever i meet someone new, my inevitable Darfur reference is met with "Dar-furr?" i know at that point i can just walk away with no regrets. it's a useful filter.

you're overrated said...

I think you're a closet lesbian -- that's why you don't have a boyfriend. Or maybe it's because you don't have a kind bone in your body.

I know I wouldn't date you.

Johanna said...

I wouldn't date me, either, "you're overrated." Kiss me, yes, hook-up with me, yes, but definitely not date.

I'm the Tara Reid of the blogosphere.

bff in chicago said...

I don't know if that picture was such a good idea, sweets.

You are gonna get SO MANY stalkers.

You do look damn good in it though.

brown rowergirl said...

I'll say! You're lookin' good!

grrr.....

good luck on the girl-date -- hope you get to second base (translation: her phone number and an agreed-upon second meeting)

is it weird, by the way, that I'm a little jealous of this etcetera?

Johanna said...

thanks girls! I hope that picture gets me a stalker or two. I already have a lurker, so a stalker is only a few more gratuitous pictures of my body away.

and no, brown rowergirl, it's not weird that you're jealous. I get more jealous of my girlfriends going on girl-dates than I do, for instance, an ex-boyfriend banging an entire ACC cheerleadeing squad.

west coast devotee said...

Is "you're overrated" for real?

From what I can tell, he's a guy, so...the fact that he thinks you're a lesbian but wouldn't date you is just plain queer.

Even if she didn't have a kind bone in her body - which she does, lots of 'em - according to you, she's a girl who likes girls.

And she's hot.

My question is, what the fuck is wrong with you??

Johanna said...

them there are the sweetest words anyone has ever said in my defense.

thank you, west cost, thank you.

and to be specific, I have two kind bones in my body, not "lots." Let's not overstate.

nyc admirer said...

I can't believe I've missed this entire thread! Girl-dates, lurkers and lesbians? Where have I been?

First off, I think you might swing thattaway as well. Not that there's anything WRONG with that. Second, you could never be overrated. Third, girl-date, just the sound of it, made my day. And finally, you do have a boyfriend -- he's just a little late in realizing how god damn lucky he is to have your heart. I'm not bitter at all or anything. Being "just friends" is totally the best.

If I came to DC on Thursday, could I be a fly on the wall on this girl-date? Sorry, you're right, I am having Jennifer Tilly/Gina Gershon thoughts...

Johanna said...

If etcetera gives the green light, you could even join us, big boy...

etcetera said...

the more the merrier.

but leave your camcorder at home!

tom h said...

your overrated is definately screwed in the head....west coast devotee I couldn't have said it better Jo is the best..I just admire her for her tremendous talent and she is a gal who knows what she wants besides being drop dead gorgeous....she is the total package and she will make someone
someday extremely happy...

LMNt said...

Wow, you've got quite a few admirers here. Interesting...

inowpronounceyou said...

I will now, once again, thank God that I am a guy.